Hi it's me again!
I haven't written in a long time but I have had this topic on my mind for a while and I guess there is no time like the present to write about it. So settle back, make your cup of tea or whatever you like to drink and read. Or just read, drink not required, optional.
It's amazing how despite the title "Never Settle" I bet the first thing that comes to your mind is knowing how many times you settled or you have people you know who have. This doesn't just apply to relationships but to anything in life from jobs to the way your life is. We get comfortable with our situations even though they may not be the best ones.
The first question we should ask ourselves is why should we never settle? By settling you are accepting what is instead of embracing more that could be! You are staying in a situation that could be draining or could just not be what you want and you stay stuck instead of stepping out of your comfort zone towards a better situation. Nothing in life has to be a certain way. The reason we are where we are is because we choose to be there.
Sometimes the potential you could have or the appreciation from others you could have is so much better elsewhere. At the same time the grass is not greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it. It could be you are settling in your situation but there could be ways you could improve where you currently are without jumping ship.
Take it from someone who jumped ship before from a spark into a fire. You just don't know what you are going to get at the other side. It could also be that the grass is already dead where you are and you need to move on. At the same time as human beings we are eternally aware of how we feel. We know when someone or something is not right for us. Which brings me to the question; why do so many people settle? It is the fear of the unknown. You are afraid to move past your situation as it takes a leap to do so.
However the most successful people and the best relationships have come from people who said enough is enough and took that leap. I remember someone saying to me and this has always stuck with me; "You are not a tree, you can move." No situation you are in is forever.
I make it sound simple right but I do know it isn't. It isn't a case of snap your fingers and create a whole new life for yourself if it was that easy everyone would be doing it. What it takes is training yourself to push yourself to go for what you really want.
It is no use complaining about your situation you are in and doing nothing about and as I write that it makes me smile because I complain 10 times or more before I do something about it. I am not saying I am an expert on things because I am not. I just learn from experience or some things it take a few of the same experiences before I actually learn what I am supposed to. Although through my own self reflection and what I get told from others about their lives none of us should settle with things that make us unhappy.
Whether you are in a relationship, job, life situation, friendship you shouldn't settle for less when you deserve more. Also worth remembering that no one is perfect and sometimes the grass isn't always greener on the other side. However if you know that there is a brighter future for you ahead, what are you waiting for?
I am not claiming I just take a leap, in fact it takes me a long time before sometimes I have made a move myself. Sometimes we hang around a long time hoping things get better and sometimes they do but sometimes it is time to move on. Some things can't be fixed and you have got to accept the things you can't control.
If you are going to keep telling people about your situation but do nothing about it well then you are accepting to be in that situation. Sometimes it is the case of you have made your bed now you have to sleep in it. That does sound harsh in a way but I am also being harsh with myself in a way as I write this as this post is a lot of self reflection too.
In fact a lot of the best advice comes from self experience. So there you go. I mess up and I write about it so others don't mess up like I have, you are welcome. If you have not been exposed to my sense of humour, I apologise in advance. In fact I do not apologise at all, I never have to apologise for being who I am. I also wouldn't call it messing up, I like to say we live and we learn. We all make mistakes sometimes.
Wow it feels good to write again. I know you are thinking for goodness sake please stop writing but I am not quite done yet. I just want you to know that there is more to life and you deserve the best this world has to offer. The way I see it all is we are here once never again, one life. There is no do over, this is it. So you have to make the most of the years you have.
It reminds me of this quote:
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